Teens.sandj.co Reviews: What Parents Say About the Course

It's 11pm. The sales page is open in one tab. In the other, you've typed "teens.sandj.co reviews".

Your teen went to bed without a word again. You want to know if $47 will change anything, or if this is one more course you won't finish.

If that's you, you're not the only one. This is our course, so we're not neutral. But you'll see what's inside, what parents wrote under the lessons, and who it isn't for.

Why do so many parents feel shut out?

Parents of teens often feel shut out because the old way of parenting stops working. Our course trailer puts it like this: "You try to help and they say you don't get it. You say nothing and they say you don't care."

You can't keep parenting a 15-year-old like they're nine. And you can't let them run free like they're 25.

The course lives in the space between those two. It isn't about fixing your teen. It's about you leading first, so they feel the shift.

Who are Sharny and Julius?

We're Sharny and Julius Kieser, parents of 6. Over 1M people follow us on Facebook, 1.3M on Instagram and about 350k on TikTok.

Julius's father was head of a department at a dental school. He never asked for respect, and got it anyway.

Sharny was 13 and a half, with a crush on a popular boy a year older. She kept saying no, until he said he'd find someone else who would.

Those two stories still shape how we parent our own kids.

Below is the course, part by part, with a real script from the lessons in each.

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Step 1 of 5

Step 1: Stop chasing the conversation

Part one is about the silence. A quiet teen isn't always rejecting you. The lessons ask you to stay close without prying, so talking feels safe again.

• Sit next to them, or drive them somewhere. Skip the questions.
• Notice when they do talk: late at night, in the car. Protect those windows.
• If they open up, don't overreact. Earn the next thing they tell you.

They Don't Talk Any More has all five ways to rebuild that trust. (More in what to do when your teenager won't talk to you.)

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Step 2 of 5

Step 2: Hold the line without groveling

You're allowed to set rules, say no and be imperfect. The course asks you to stop apologizing for rules that aren't wrong, and to stop needing your teen's approval.

• Use it when you've said no to a party with no adults.
• Apologize when you're wrong. Don't grovel when you're not.
• Do your own repair work privately, not in their room.

You Haven't Failed (Even If They Say You Have) is for the night they say you're ruining their life.

"Something has clicked in me since doing the modules... Nothing has changed other than my tone, language and level of emotion and frustration. The resistance is still there. But things aren't escalating. Kids haven't changed... I have."

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Step 3: Look under the behavior

Part two looks at what sits under the behavior parents fight. A teen who seems lazy is often lost. A teen who seems dramatic is often drowning.

• Give a son real weight to carry, not more lectures.
• Be the calm voice in the kitchen when your daughter is spiraling.
• Stay when they're hard to love. That's the whole job.

She's Not Dramatic, She's Drowning is where that promise comes from.

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Step 4 of 5

Step 4: Treat the phone as an escape, not the enemy

Part four says teens aren't addicted to the phone. They're addicted to escape. So the fix is a life they don't need to escape from, plus clear rules.

• Our phone rule came from a retired police officer who saw teenagers' phones come into the station all the time.
• Give them hard things to do offline, and real jobs that matter.

They're Not Addicted To Their Phone, They're Addicted To Escape covers the rest. (See should I check my teenager's phone?)

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Step 5 of 5

Step 5: Grow alongside them

The last part is about you. Teens learn emotional maturity by watching you, not from lectures. When you lose your cool, you haven't failed. You repair.

• Own a blowup once, then move on.
• Show them calm, rather than explaining it.

Teaching Emotional Maturity Without Lecturing has the full script.

What do teens.sandj.co reviews say?

The reviews on teens.sandj.co are comments parents left under the lessons. Here are two more, word for word.

"I've been calm and steady during moments with my 13 year old daughter the last couple days and what a difference we are already having. I'm holding steady on rules and boundaries and she's respecting them... so far it's paying off!"

Some parents say it changed more than their parenting.

"Thank you for this course, this went beyond parenting: this taught me about life and, weirdly enough, about how to re-parent myself. I'm grateful."

What are the downsides?

The biggest downside of What They're Not Saying: Teens is that it asks you to change first. Not every comment is glowing, and you should hear those too.

• Doing it is hard. Manal loved the course, then wrote: "However, implementing is not looking easy."
• Your teen may push back. She asked what to do when every offer "is met by rejection".
• Some find it too general. A few parents say parts feel black and white for blended families.

You can ask questions like Manal's in the comments under each lesson.

Is What They're Not Saying: Teens right for you?

What They're Not Saying: Teens is a video course for parents of teenagers. It suits parents who feel the connection slipping and are tired of the same fights.

• 19 core video lessons, plus lifetime updates
• Companion texts, real-world scripts and practical exercises
• Lifetime access, and a bonus introduction to IronMum and IronDad
• One purchase covers your whole household
• One payment of $47 USD

It isn't for quick fixes, or for parents who think the problem is 100% their teen.

It isn't for a crisis either. Self-harm, an eating disorder, drugs or alcohol, or someone hurting them: see a doctor or counselor first.

If the rest sounds like your house, start with the first lesson tonight.